Seriously, It didn’t take a lot of time to make me change my opinion about everything. You know, as soon as you enter the middle school, you enter that stage of your life when you start changing, either in good or in bad. Not that I think is too relevant to tell the truth, unfortunately something we can’t really decide from ourselves.
My entire credo, my entire thinking process, all my beliefs, everything changes!!
And even fast, so fast that you can barely notice it. From that moment I was no more a superhero!! Just some plain boy who was doing his job!! What job? Easy answer… “Living”!!
I started soon realizing that actual size, was that big or fat or whatever, doesn’t count as variable in the equation of the “find out who’s the bad boy”.
And that’s when I saw the same scene as the one when I was 7, in middle school. But there was a big difference this time. Really… this time a big boy was the one under attack.
Jesus… I couldn’t believe it. In a single instant, as I said, everything changed for me. I was confused. I was unbeliever. I was… I don’t know, it just doesn’t felt right to me. Or maybe I just didn’t want to believe it. Was I wrong all the time? Was I discriminating the race of the “big”? Was I discriminating…?
I guess this is the case when they say… “Don’t judge a book from his cover”!! This is my philosophy now and I promised myself that I’d keep living with that quote in mind from that moment to the end.
Matter of fact, I’ll soon be closed to a girl in my class, one of the coolest friends I ever had. Was her “fat”? Of course she was!! Was her a bad person? Not even closer!! Was her to judge by her cover? Not even closer!!
I really loved this mind-shifting of mine. But, as soon as that, I also noticed that not everyone my age had it. And this can cause lots of pain to those who are thought as “different”. And it’s not only a matter of fat or not, this is literally called discrimination in my opinion. Skin color, race, religion, sexual tendency (aka gays)… but I have some bad news, unfortunately. When I was young I thought it was just a matter of time before someone could understand it. But now, as a more adult person, I can state this: there are people that, even at their last second of life, can’t do this mind shifting. And all I can say is that this is really sad.
Lots of you may hate me for what I said, but I don’t care, neither a little. This is my philosophy and if it wasn’t for that I will never be able to be where I’m now. “Someone who has the need to discriminate someone else, just indicate a big sense of inferiority and a deep need to show he/she can stand on top.” But I never saw a single secure person (the ones I admired the most) in my life do it. Who knows why?
Obviously not all people are this way. And the feeling of being not attractive of whatsoever because of some fat is just the results of the society thinking process. Of YOUR thinking process. Nothing we can change by the way.
This is why my little middle school friend had to face a very difficult challenge very soon. And so my mission to help her…
P.S. I just recently loved a book so much. The title is “Winning Through Intimidation” and it’s really mind blowing how really simple it is to make someone feel so dumb when that person try to hit you first. Don’t be slave of impure and ignorant comment. Do the mind shifting!! Definitively one of the best book ever in my life.